Think emailing your divorce lawyer is the “cheapest” way to communicate? Think again.

When people hear “control,” they picture yelling, threats, or explosive behavior. But during divorce, control is often far more subtle, and that’s what makes it dangerous.

We get it. Divorce is exhausting. It’s emotional whiplash. It’s paperwork. It’s custody logistics. It’s spending money you never wanted to spend. And if you’ve already moved on romantically? The urge to hit “fast forward” becomes feral.

If your divorce is stalling, do not confuse waiting with helplessness.

You can’t control your spouse’s behavior. But you can control your strategy—and strategy is what moves cases forward.

Andrea and Morgan break down the divorce dream team—who you need, who you don’t, and where to invest your VERY hard-earned dollars. From therapists to forensic accountants and parenting coordinators, they give you the inside scoop on which players actually move the needle in your case.

Think saving money during divorce is impossible? Think again. In this episode, Andrea and Morgan serve up the real (and hilarious) talk on how to actually cut your legal costs without sacrificing your sanity—or your settlement. 

Morgan and Andrea welcome Renee Swanson, host of the Covert Narcissism podcast, for a powerful conversation about planning your way out of an emotionally abusive marriage.

The conversation covers the confusion and frustration many women feel as they experience shifts in their bodies and emotions, which can often be mistaken for relationship problems. Dr. Cushing explains the difference between perimenopause and menopause, the importance of hormone therapy (HRT), and how addressing hormonal imbalances can help women make clearer, more rational decisions during the divorce process.

Our guest, Bree Sullivan-Howell, a family law attorney and author, shares her personal journey and professional insights on navigating divorce when your Christian faith conflicts with the decision to separate. 

We’re joined by Cari Pines, an attorney in LA who specializes in family law and has personal experience with raising special needs children. 

Special guest,Randi Karmel, a seasoned attorney based in New York, shares her expert insights on when and why these professionals might be appointed in divorce cases and how they can impact your case.

We dive into the world of forensic accountants and when you should—and shouldn't—bring one into your divorce case. Featuring expert Marie Ebersbacher, a senior managing director in forensic consulting, we explore how forensic accountants help uncover hidden assets, value businesses, and track income.

What Listeners Will Learn:

The ideal time to file for divorce (hint: there actually IS an ideal time)..

The burning questions you'll get answers to:

Who typically needs a prenup?

Are there any common clauses included in prenups, like those involving children or lifestyle?

How much can you expect to pay for a prenup?

Should both parties hire separate attorneys when creating a prenup?

What should someone look out for if they are served a prenup?

Andrea shares her personal struggles with her own parenting agreement and offers tips on how you can avoid the mistakes she made. Morgan provides expert legal insight on how to negotiate a fair agreement that works for both parents and their kids.

We’re joined by transformational coach Annmarie Chereso, who shares her expertise on how fear affects the brain and behavior during such a challenging time. Annmarie provides practical tools to manage fear, including a four-step method that helps individuals move from a place of fear to empowerment.

We break down what a deposition is, how it works, and the importance of preparation to ensure you present yourself as a strong witness. Morgan, a seasoned divorce lawyer, walks listeners through key strategies for handling a deposition, including how to answer questions succinctly, when to ask for a break, and why staying calm is crucial. 

Andrea opens up about her personal journey and how getting 

divorced legitimately saved her life.

It’s a complex decision, whether to pause your divorce process and explore the possibility of reconciliation. We discuss why some couples might reconsider divorce, the emotional and practical aspects to consider before making a decision, and the importance of having real, lasting change before hitting pause.

In this episode of How Not To Suck At Divorce, Andrea and Morgan talk about the tough question of whether to stay or go in your marriage. They walk you through the simple but powerful TALK acronym to help you gain clarity and confidence as you make this big decision in your life. They cover how therapy can help you unpack what's going on, the importance of understanding your emotional needs, how to assess the fun and love in your relationship, and why knowledge is key to moving forward.